Anger. Frustration. Resentment. Hurt. Pain. Malice. Bitterness. Unforgiveness. Vengeance. Wrath.
It doesn’t take much, does it?
A harsh word spoken in a moment of anger…
A thoughtless action that was somehow misinterpreted…
The phone call that was never returned…
A lie that “you” don’t know the true nature of it, the “why behind the lie”…
That special calendar event that was overlooked…
Something taken out of context and misunderstood… Yes, how easily something so small can ignite and quickly become explosive.
Every day we find ourselves face-to-face with opportunities that if left ignored or neglected can turn into a raging inferno of anger and self-vindication.
Family, Boyfriend/Girlfriend, Husband/Wife, Work, Friends, and even our Children, can all present countless situations where we feel slighted, ignored, rejected, insulted, threatened, or maligned.
But at such times we still have a choice. before you cast the first stone.. think about it this way, have you taken yourself out of the hurt and placed yourself in “their” shoe’s?
When we look at it from the other persons eyes, you can understand the reason for the harsh words, the lie or any of the above stated words.
If we have empathy instead of sympathy, we should feel the other persons pain, fear, anger and say lets talk, I’m here for you, I care about/love you.
We still have a way of escape, a means to deal with the highly combustible situation before it explodes.
Just because the match has been lit doesn’t mean we have to put it to the fuse.
Instead of allowing the situation to blow up, we can choose to blow out the match.
Kind words, a gracious reply, open your heart, a willingess to forgive, walking away until you cool down, trying to be understanding, exercising a little patience, having empathy and just biting your tongue are all acceptable responses to a highly flammable circumstance.
No, I’m not saying it’s easy. It’s not. But anger, hurt, forgiveness need not rule our lives or ruin our day.
We all have the choice.
We can either blow out the match or let the situation blow up.
It’s entirely up to us.
“But now you also, put them all aside: anger, wrath, malice, slander, and abusive speech from your mouth.” ~ Colossians 3:8