This morning while doing my normal morning ritual…I realised that I had run out of toilet paper. Again. I say again because this is not the first time this has happened to me and it probably won’t be the last time that it will happen to me. That is why I have a stash of serviettes in my bathroom…for such moments of brief panic. I mean, who wants to have a heart attack at 6 in the morning anyway?
The whole running out of toilet paper thing got me thinking…am I adult enough to deal with my life? I mean…I am 52 years old. OK, let’s call a spade a spade, I am closer to 53 than 52 so I may just as well say that I am 53. 53. My first couple of years in my 50’s. I don’t know if that is depressing or liberating.
There’s this thing that happens when you grow older or rather when you decide to grow up. Getting older is a given, growing up is not. You can be grown up at 17 and a complete child at 71. But the thing that happens is…everything changes!
Your body, your priorities, your sleeping pattern, your shopping list…hell…even your weekend plans! You have now gone from getting all dolled up for a night on the town on a Friday night to immediately taking off your bra and pants when you walk through your front door, pour yourself a glass of wine and press play on your current favourite series that you are binge-watching.
But let me not bore you with too many words, here is a list of things that I have found out have catapulted me into adulthood…whether I like it or not!
- I now have to pay rent. A lot of rent. For a very small place. BUT…it has a walk-in closet and a wonderful porch.
- Taxes. I don’t even have to say anything else on that.
- Car…your car is a whole other bag of things that you need to worry about AND I NEED ONE A.S.A.P! Remembering to put gas in (the right gas), checking your water and oil, tire pressure, license renewal (which happens every 4 years. EVERY 4 YEARS!) and then…the inevitable service. Money= GONE. Also, may I just say that I am still getting around by public transportation. That takes away some adult points, right???
- On the whole legal driving thing…I have had to renew my driver’s license… TWICE! ( moved Twice)
- Grocery shopping has gone from boxed microwaveable meals and cheap alcohol to things that are green and cleaning products and (when you remember), toilet paper.
- Wine has stopped being drunk by the box, but by the bottle. And not the cheapest bottle, the one you actually like to drink and are willing to pay a little extra for.
- On the topic of drinking…how the HELL did I manage to go out almost every night of the week when I was 21, get home and 4 am and still be a half functioning human being the next day?
- Food…every bit of food finds its way to every part of your body that you don’t want it to. Used to be able to eat fast-food or sugar/carbs every evening? Well, now you can’t! Now it is salads and cereal that makes you regular and vegetables. And…even though we don’t like to say this, we actually like eating like this.
- I have gone from drinking 2 Monster energy drinks, 7 cups of coffee and a bottle of wine a night to drinking 4 cups of coffee, 3 litres of water and maybe a glass of wine a night…when I can afford it.
- Budgeting. I have to budget! Well…I can budget once all my debit orders have gone off and I have paid rent and medicine and you know, the necessities.
- Things you start thinking about: Dating. Like…what? Men? When did that happen?
- We refer to anyone who is younger than us as, “They must be like 12, or something”.
- I don’t understand modern music. There is no music. Just people talking over a vague beat in the background…what is this shit?
- I find great joy in cleaning my house. In throwing out all the crap and having a nice, sparkling new apartment. AND I would rather do that over the weekend than party the whole time.
- Work…work is inevitable. I have found that I now actually have all the experience that was always on all the applications I saw for jobs…and frankly, that scares me a little. I have experience? Do you believe that I can actually do this? Honey, most of the time I am flying by the seat of my pants and winging it.
- Make-up has become a must! simply because when I don’t wear it I apparently look like I am dying.
- Clothing. I now wear clothes that I like and not what is “in”. I have made peace with the fact that I will never look good in a crop top and high-waisted short shorts that show my butt cheeks. Also, I judge women who do that.
- I rock short hair. Like an old person, I like my short hair because it is easy and cool and I don’t have to spend hours doing it in the morning.
- Dating. It is no longer a cluster-fuck of how many boys you can kiss. It now actually means something.
- Friendships. I have realised that I have a few close friends and that is all I need.
- Family. I used to get very irritated with my family and thought that they have no idea who I am and they didn’t understand me (although I think this is still true). But I love them. With all my heart and I want to be near them. They are important to me and I could not have asked for a better family.
Ok, so now that my adult list has been named, here are the things I do to attempt to retain some of my childhood, or rather, some of the things I do to not get bogged down with all this sudden responsibilities and stress and *gasp* wrinkles!
- I have taken to colouring in. I have an adult colouring-in book and I love it.
- I sing in the shower. In the kitchen. In my car. And basically, anywhere I want.
- I build puzzles. Not real ones though…the ones you find on the internet.
- I dance around my apartment in my underwear.
- I have friends who make me laugh and forget about how old we are getting.
- I build forts in my house. Pillow forts. Blanket forts. And then I sit in them and read a book, or simply just enjoy being in a fort that I made.
- I sometimes buy a whole box of Fruit Loops, eat them all in my bed while watching cartoons.
But the thing is, as much as we complain about being adults and how we can’t do this…we are doing this! We are being adults! And the great thing is, no one has done it before either! Not one of your friends has been an adult before, your parents have never been parents of adults before, and everyone around you has never done whatever it is they are doing before. Isn’t that awesome? We are all just doing the best we can with what we have and what we know. You can ask people for advice and guidance…but, in the end, it is up to you to make the decisions. And they are your decisions to make. You decide on your life. You decide if you want to grow up or not. Sometimes, that decision presents itself to you sooner than what you would like…I know mine did…but you know what? Then I ran with it! I taught myself how to adult in my own unique way. I don’t adult-like the person sitting next to me. I don’t adult-like the members of my family or like my friends. I adult in my own, sometimes crazy way! There is no other way to do it…I am doing adulting the way I feel is best for me.
And if that means that every now and again I find myself colouring in whilst eating Fruit Loops under a pillow fort…then so be it!